Well, you are right - the last thing that NATO countries want or need is a war with Russia. Also, Russia supplies a good portion of the countries in the EU with energy, which gives them leverage over matters like this. Heard any complaints from Germany about Russia lately? Nope, because over 50% of their energy supply comes from Russia. Etc, etc.
I'm a little disappointed in the American press of the Georgia - Russian war, though. Georgia did start it, and kill a good deal of civilians in the process. But yet, all we hear about is the terrible Russian invasion. And then we used the invasion as an excuse to put a missile defense system in Poland.
Who exactly is provoking whom?