Topic: How do you deal with divorcees?

[PyroMenace]

Whats the rule set for this? Do you give them time to recover, or do you swoop in and take the opportunity? There is a story behind this but this is the basic of it, I want to know what your opinion of this is.

[iPPi]

Do you mean divorcees?

[Cobra951]

I'm nearly living with a future divorcee.  Heh.  She's in a drawn-out legal battle with her ex-to-be.  I didn't meet her until like a year and a half after he abandoned her, so I guess it's not the same thing as seeing someone right after a painful split.  Just be careful she doesn't use you as a rebound board.  Maybe even talk about that fear with her.  Everyone's different.

[PyroMenace]

Do you mean divorcees?

Ah thanks, really had no idea how to spell that.

But yea, she has been wanting to get out of the relationship for a while now and has made her feelings clear, she has just been stuck in a situation where she couldn't move away for a little while. I didn't want to make any moves yet but I was just wondering on how I should approach since I am interested in her.

[ren]

The same way you would treat every other woman.

[Quemaqua]

I think what ren said makes sense.  I don't know if he was being serious or not, but I'd say just treat her with respect and don't pressure her.  If at some point it seems like a good idea to let her know how you feel, do so, but let her know you understand her situation and aren't trying to just move in for the opportunity or whatever.

[K-man]

Tread lightly, you're not terribly far out of a serious relationship yourself.

[ren]

He was being serious. So many people over-complicate social situations, especially when it comes to women. There's no rule for divorced women that would apply in all situations. Lay some groundwork, pick up on social clues and decide what to do.

[gpw11]

It depends.  Most of the time, you just deal with it like Ren says, but when it's Ghandi's mom....Oh man,  you gotta lock that shit down FAST.

[Raisa]

mm good luck. stop bringing up her ex.