Thanks. I did manage to sleep from about 8:30 AM to 1 PM. Almost good enough.
Symbiotic? I guess in a way. There is an interdependence there, but I think of symbiosis as a positive thing. My situation is hardly that. The thing is that if my ex's mom does end up dying or disabled, it will be that much harder for me to leave. I'm still here because of my daughters, and nothing more. Even if I don't get a place of my own soon, I could be crashing at my mom's big house, with my own room and no hellish pressure or tension. If grandma can no longer take care of the girls in my absence, my need to be here for them will become that much greater. I hope that doesn't happen, for 2 reasons: (1) my own path to freedom would get further blocked, and less importantly, (2) it would fuel the Catholic mysticism around me--"oh, so it was God's will that you go and stay there!" Ugh! Just what I need.