Topic: Life lesson learned....IT HURTS

[gpw11]

DO NOT ASK EX GIRLFRIENDS IF THEY ARE SEEING SOMEONE.  No matter how much you don't care right before hand or how many girls you have slept with since breaking up, you will still feel kind of hurt.


Hold me Keebs.

[Ghandi]

*5 minutes later,  new thread*: Life lesson learned...DO NOT ASK KEEBS TO HOLD YOU...IT HURTS

[angrykeebler]

fuck yeah it'll hurt

i'll hold you so hard

[Quemaqua]

Yeah, that's always a terrible idea.  Talking to ex-girlfriends in general is probably not a great idea.  I shouldn't talk, but... fuck.  Whatever.

[Ghandi]

fuck yeah it'll hurt

i'll hold you so hard

Your emphasis is a little creepy.

[PyroMenace]

Yea, i went out of my way to not talk to my ex and I still found out she was seeing someone, then married within 6 months. FML.

[Quemaqua]

We should have an FML party.  I'll bring the booze.

[gpw11]

WELL THAT GOT WORSE.

We decided not to talk again.  Buuuuut not before she told me she still loved me.  I didn't say it back.  Not because I'm bitter, because I don't really.  I mean, I do like her a lot, but I don't want to start anything up and probably wouldn't even if she lived back here.  Not really a good scene, and I probably do feel worse than when we actually broke up. Truth be told, I wanted to break up with her for quite a bit before we actually did, but kind of just figured I'd ride it out.  That worked, but I still feel like a sack of shit right now. 


Are you on your way Keebs?

[Quemaqua]

Nicely done.  If anyone can make me feel better about my shitty fucking relationship experiences of late, it's you.  And I mean that in a totally nice way.

[gpw11]

BUT I TOLD HER WHEN WE BROKE UP THAT SHE WAS GOING TO BE A NUN AND SHE AGREED.  I'm going to drink and smoke a lot right now and then tomorrow I'm going to stop doing both....or at least the smoking.  Realistically, I'll still have to be drinking socially.  I mean, for networking purposes.

[angrykeebler]

I'll bring the malt liquor

[gpw11]

Good, because last time I played 40 hands I had to track down the last forties in a 30 mile radius.  Seriously.  The government holds down a monopoly on liquor distribution here and they no longer stock forties of malt liquor for some retarded reason.  There are private liquor stores and you can import to your store to some extent, but who the fuck is going to import malt liquor?  Apart from that you have to order from the government run distributer which hasn't stocked any forties in a month or so.  It's bullshit.

[gpw11]

I am now going to smoke and drink my face off before stopping smoking completely tomorrow and stopping weeknight drinking (mostly).  I like to use events like this as a catalyst for change. 


I will let you know how I feel tomorrow.

[Quemaqua]

Just don't be like me.  I've been drunk for... uh... apparently 3 months as of today.

[scottws]

I got dumped for a gay guy once.  I took a major hit to the self confidence from that one.  I don't know how the girl didn't know, because it was extremely obvious.  It was good in the end though because she was pretty trashy and I'm guessing she was pretty embarrassed to find out she was chasing after a gay guy.

I know what you mean though, gpw.  When I found out the hot Russian chick I used to date got married, I felt a little pang.  I don't know why; she was a total bitch and I was actually relieved once we broke up after I got over the surprise factor.

[gpw11]

Yeah, it sucks.  I think the worst part for me is that there's nothing to feel angry or bitter about really. I think it would be easier by now if there was a bad breakup of some sort and I could just write it off as me being a dumbass or her being a bitch.  As it is, it's just like we still really like each other and just can't do it because we live in different places now and neither is willing to move.

I feel slightly better about it today.  I do feel bad for her as she's obviously having a much harder time with not being together in general than I am, but the seeing someone else (even if she says she still loves me and isn't all that in to him) still stings like a motherfucker....that's the weird part. 

I definitely missed her, but pretty nuch had moved on and I've been doing well with girls, but .... damn.  Oh well, what can you do?  Wouldn't work out unless I moved to a shithole town very close to where Kams is from.  And even then, it wouldn't really have worked because I wouldn't be hapy there and we were on very dufferent life paths.  Deep down inside, I was happy that she wasn't coming back because ultimately our lifesyles weren't all that compatible.  I also was hoping she'd get involved in something else soon because I knew she'd have a harder time, but still....to acrually hear it feels like a bit of a betrayal regardless.

I mean, I've accepted it, now I just have to be internally cool with it.  That's the hard part, although I sincerly hope we can be friends one day.

[Pugnate]

Yeah, it sucks.  I think the worst part for me is that there's nothing to feel angry or bitter about really. I think it would be easier by now if there was a bad breakup of some sort and I could just write it off as me being a dumbass or her being a bitch.  As it is, it's just like we still really like each other and just can't do it because we live in different places now and neither is willing to move.

I feel slightly better about it today.  I do feel bad for her as she's obviously having a much harder time with not being together in general than I am, but the seeing someone else (even if she says she still loves me and isn't all that in to him) still stings like a motherfucker....that's the weird part. 

I definitely missed her, but pretty nuch had moved on and I've been doing well with girls, but .... damn.  Oh well, what can you do?  Wouldn't work out unless I moved to a shithole town very close to where Kams is from.  And even then, it wouldn't really have worked because I wouldn't be hapy there and we were on very dufferent life paths.  Deep down inside, I was happy that she wasn't coming back because ultimately our lifesyles weren't all that compatible.  I also was hoping she'd get involved in something else soon because I knew she'd have a harder time, but still....to acrually hear it feels like a bit of a betrayal regardless.

I mean, I've accepted it, now I just have to be internally cool with it.  That's the hard part, although I sincerly hope we can be friends one day.

Translation: Fuck women.

[Cobra951]

I try.

[Pugnate]

haha I knew someone would do that.

[ren]

On August 17 you were taking it hard. On August 18 you seemed more rational. On August 19 you didn't post. CLIFFHANGER.

[beo]

i recommend a heathly does of hardcore pornography.

i always find that when i'm feeling down about a girl, once i jack off i no longer give a shit.

[Pugnate]

hahahah

[gpw11]

On August 17 you were taking it hard. On August 18 you seemed more rational. On August 19 you didn't post. CLIFFHANGER.

Well, I performed an exit interview of sorts and moved on. I thought about it a bit more and figured the whole thing was just purely emotional without any rationality behind it. She was originally planning on coming back at the end of the summer, but decided not to and now she's seeing someone up there. It was kind of finding out about those two things back to back which kind of set me off on a bender.  End of the day though, when we broke up I kind of told myself that I should avoid getting back together with her if she moved back, something she kind of seemed dead set on.   Beyond that, I was partially the one who convinced her to stay up there because she likes it more and for a few other reasons. I also know she's having a far harder time with the whole thing than I am, which is the main reason we stopped talking in the first place and why we just decided to not talk now as well.

 Like I said before, I was relieved when we first broke up and I kind of am now as well. She had a lot of drama in her life that I certainly didn't want to be dealing with forever and while I do like her a lot, in the end our lifestyles weren't all that compatible. Even though a relationship with someone is perfect in a lot of ways, you have to kind of look at it like game theory I guess, and the negatives take precedent. Yeah, it sucks but it's ultimately not being together is the best for both of us....especially me.


As for seeing some guy, that in itself doesn't bother me all that much. I mean, as long as they're not holding hands and shit (fuuuuck). But really, she's conducted herself in a far more reasonable manner than I have over the last two months and she would probably lose her shit if she's found out what I've been up to.

So, in the spirit of moving on, I took some steps moving forward with other girls and we'll see where everything goes.  Also, I've pounded out a lot of chicks since we broke up....WHICH IS AWESOME. (oh god I feel so empty)

[Ghandi]

Let me sum if up for people that don't want to read that:

You told her about the nitrogen on your junk and she ran faster than a Mexican in a taco race.

[gpw11]

Ahahaha. 

[gpw11]

Well, she just drunk called/emailed me.  Thankfully, I'm way less drunk and sadly she's dealing with the whole thing far worse than I am.