Oh hey, me again. I'm still on my mission so to speak, but thought I'd drop in. Actually, I figured I'd ask you all a question of what I should do in a certain situation, because I'm really not too sure and I don't want to talk to anyone I actually know face to face about it. Obviously, it has to do with a girl...because these things usually do.
See, there's this girl that my a few of my friends (specifically, their girlfriends...her friends) have been telling me liked me a lot. For maybe three weeks straight they'd all be trying to get me to hook up with her, but I wanted none of it because, quite frankly I found the whole situation to be awkward. Well, that and I really didn't even know who she was except that I had talked to her a few times that I don't even remember (binge drinking.....woo!). In fact, when someone told us we met on Halloween I thought it was someone else completely (and I wasn't even that drunk).
Anyways, long story short, I was at the bar a few weeks ago and actually started talking to her and honestly, I was pretty impressed. Apart from the fact that she doesn't drink enough and dances too much she turned out to be really cool. She does humanitarian stuff and for some reason I don't think she's as self-righteous as most people when they talk about it, she's damn funny, more interesting than most people, and well....cooler than most chicks you haven't known forever. So, I end up talking to her for a while, don't even try to go for the pickup, and just get the number. Here's where it kind of gets fucked up in my mind. She makes a big deal to check to make sure I saved it correctly, and that I'll actually call. She tells me her schedule for the following week, and pretty much sets up a day to meet up. Great.
At this point I'm again kind of reluctant, because I can't do any of the things I usually try to get away with seeing as she's a.) really nice and b.) a good friend of mine's roommate. Yet, the next day her roommate comes over, seems really pumped, doesn't bring it up with me but tells my roommate that this girl really likes me and is a bit worried I won't call. So a few days later I call, mainly because I forgot what days she was going to be out of town. She's gone, but she'll call me when she gets back. She gets back, calls, but I can't make it. She works out of town quite a bit and our schedules don't really line up on the weekend for a few weeks. Either way, the point is that this isn't really working out. While all this is going on, I'm slowly getting more and more used to the idea of actually going out with this girl, so it's kind of frustrating when this happens for some reason.
Anyways, I was talking to her friend tonight about a fund raiser/party thing we're doing tomorrow and I basically ask if I should bother calling her anymore. The answer is where my question lies; Apparently, this girl has 'kind of been on a couple dates with someone' she met right before I got her number and started to talk to her (I use 'talk' loosely since I'm not a huge phone talker) and 'it's not much at all, but she feels kind of awkward about the whole thing. Apparently, she's 'stoked' to hang out, and she commented about how it's just 'bad timing'. She then goes on to say how we'd really get along very well, and should 'try the friend thing' and 'we'll all hang out'.
So, this is my dilemma; my natural instinct is to just say fuck it and not hang out with her. If I'm somewhere and she's there, I'll talk to her, but I might even try to avoid her for a while. The other option would be to hang out with her, which could be entertaining for both parties, but will probably leave me feeling bitter, passively aggressively trying to sleep with her, or something like that. I would have definitely been able to hand just hanging out with this chick and being friends a couple of weeks ago, but somewhere along the line an idea has been formed in my head, and I won't be able to pull it off now without some ulterior motive for a while.
So the real question is if I should just cut her loose completely or perhaps hang out with her (keep her in the wings so to speak), in hopes of maybe forming more something down the road. I wouldn't count or wait on it at all (or so I say now), but chances are that would be why I'd be hanging out with her at this point; putting in time. I really don't know what to do because on one hand, I have pride and my distaste for awkward moments that aren't going to turn funny in a week, yet on the other it's very rare that I find a chick that I'd actually want to hang out with ....and sleep with, and in the end an investment now could pay off huge...and honestly I think that's what her roommate is going for (assuming she's being honest).
Sorry for the long ass post, but I figured it'd be best to get some advice since I respect all your opinions (except ren's). And to be perfectly honest, I haven't been banking on this at all. I've been seeing another girl for a month or two, but she's batshit insane and I really need a good reason not to call her when drunk...which is probably a large portion of how this idea of me and the other girl formed in my head. I don't know if that means anything.
